DEAR GUYS: Don't marry her because she's beautiful, for beauty doesn't last forever. Marry her because you love and want her for the sake of Allah. Marry her because you know she is an epitome of Allah's grace. Marry her because you know she will be a good wife to you, a good mother to your children, and a good daughter to the ummah. Marry her because she fears Allah, because she's not promiscuous, because she knows how to set productive boundaries with other guys who are non-mahram. Marry her because she doesn't expose her body or anything that Allah has commanded a Muslim lady to conceal.
Marry her because she prioritizes her relationship with her Lord above everything else. Marry her because she knows how to build good relationships and safeguard the interests and affairs of her relationships with others. Marry her because she is unique and not interested in competing with anyone. Marry her because after Allah, she confides in you before anyone and is not fooled by social media. Marry her because she reminds you of Allah and enjoins you to do that which is halal and avoid that which is haram. And marry her because she respects you and treats you with regard, no matter how many misunderstandings you have or how tough the journey gets.
DEAR LADIES: Don't marry him because he has six-packs, for in a few years' time, all that will no longer be there. Don't marry him because he is handsome or has pink lips, for his looks and pink lips cannot fill your life with bliss. Don't marry him because he's rich or owns the latest expensive cars, houses and phones, for money, houses, or cars are all temporary and cannot guarantee a healthy relationship or your place in Al-Jannah. Marry him because his actions, words, and attitude scream of his genuine love and admiration for you.
Marry him because he knows how to set uncompromising and productive boundaries with other ladies, no matter how close he was with them before he met you. Marry him because he fears Allah and treats you right because of his fear of Allah. Marry him because you know he will be a good father to your kids, even when you are not there. Marry him because he knows the significance of a wife and the value of what Allah has given him. Marry him because you know that even when he has no money, he embodies the qualities of an ideal husband who is worthy of maintaining a healthy home.
Marry him because no matter how knowledgeable or wealthy he is, he is humble and doesn't look down on anyone. Marry him because he knows how to lower his gaze and safeguard your relationship even when you are not there. Marry him because he sacrifices his wants and worldly desires for the needs and happiness of your relationship. Marry him because he knows how to keep calm and utter the best words even when he is angry and under pressure. Marry him because he conceals the affairs of your relationship and shields it from the envious and evil eyes of social media.
Marry him because he knows that his love, respect, and time are worth more than any material possessions he can give to you. Marry him because he chose you despite the fitnah from the opposite gender, and marry him because he reminds you of Allah and encourages you to do all that will bring you closer to Allah and close to Al-Jannah. Lastly, dear singles, forget the fantasies you see in movies, forget the lies social media tells you and forget the lies that your mind keeps feeding you about relationships, because the hard truth is that managing a relationship is as difficult as preventing the light of a candle from going off when there's a storm.
Managing a relationship requires a high-level of tolerance, cooperation, patience, understanding, compromise, sacrifice, honesty and the willingness of both parties to navigate the challenges that come with being in a relationship, no matter how many storms they encounter. Nobody is perfect, neither is any relationship, but when two imperfect souls come together as one, then even the darkest of paths can be filled with light.
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